She said: But I want to take my destiny into my own hands, I don't want to be surrendered, I want to change my future. I want to make my own future.
Answer: When you are not surrendered to what it is, you are resisting to what it is, you are not in the moment of now, you are either in the future or the past. Memories of past or illusion of future.
You start to experience an illusional world in the past or future. Both are just thoughts that occur to you. And as you are not aware of those thoughts. You identify with the thought. You become the thought itself. It seems so real that you start to feel it really happens right now. You start to feel all tensions like you are there in the situation.
You are not aware of your surroundings anymore, you start to live an illusional world in your mind. This thought is an entry point of series of unlimited thoughts that they come one after another. They frighten you. They make you worried. Then you like a hypnotised person full of fear, start…
If you don't have the peace in you, the love relationship like all other things in life is just another source of worries and suffering, jealousy, uncertainty, flaws in your partner and much more kinds of suffering.
You are looking your peace in the relationship but it does not give you that. So, you try to change it, improve it, because you think the flaws in your partner or the deficiencies in the relationship is the source of your tension. You find a flaw and you say to yourself only and only if it was like that, I could be in eternal peace and we could live happily ever after.
Sometimes with marriage, a contract, you want to make it more certain, you think after the marriage then I will have the peace but after marriage still, you see that the peace is not there. You still suffer! Even more! You look for another thing to add to it, a child, a brilliant place to live and etc, you have the illusion that by adding something or improving it you will get the peace.
You are wron…
For duration of this drinking tea, forget the past and future,
I understand You have lots of recurring memories from the past, and there are many worries of future and future plans. But only for this short period of time just assume there is no future and no past. Just you a cup of tea to drink and that's all.
Get ready to sit for a longer period than usual. Sit in a comfortable position.
Look around, observe what is going on around you. Look at the people, decoration, objects and overall feeling around you.
Get a sense of your surroundings and your position in this whole.
If thoughts or feeling comes up, only observe them shortly then label them as a thought or as a feeling and then return to your watching.
If you find yourself lost with a thought it does not matter, let it be. Now that you know you are lost, simply return to y
Continue watching till you feel good.
Look at your table and then your tea. See what your tea consist of. And then again watch…