She said: But I want to take my destiny into my own hands, I don't want to be surrendered, I want to change my future. I want to make my own future.
Answer: When you are not surrendered to what it is, you are resisting to what it is, you are not in the moment of now, you are either in the future or the past. Memories of past or illusion of future.
You start to experience an illusional world in the past or future. Both are just thoughts that occur to you. And as you are not aware of those thoughts. You identify with the thought. You become the thought itself. It seems so real that you start to feel it really happens right now. You start to feel all tensions like you are there in the situation.
You are not aware of your surroundings anymore, you start to live an illusional world in your mind. This thought is an entry point of series of unlimited thoughts that they come one after another. They frighten you. They make you worried. Then you like a hypnotised person full of fear, start…
Happiness does not depend on conditions but whats happening in your mind.
Observing the following short clip is mind-blowing. Please watch the clip and keep your focus on the boy behaviour than anything else.
In few words, the boy is not sad. You as an observer may feel sad but he is not. The thoughts have not taken over him. He is in full acceptance of the conditions. You watch the clip and your conditioned mind creates sorrow. The boy mind is not conditioned and sees the real life.
He does not ask, "why? why me? I wish I had legs I wish I was normal I wish... ". He does not compare himself to his sister. He wants to go up and he does it. His incredible performance in climbing comes from the complete surrender to the situation.
What makes you happy or sad, is not the situation or condition you are in. It's about your thoughts. In every situation the thoughts will come, positive or negative they separate you from reality and change your mood.
But how come that the bo…
For duration of this drinking tea, forget the past and future,
I understand You have lots of recurring memories from the past, and there are many worries of future and future plans. But only for this short period of time just assume there is no future and no past. Just you a cup of tea to drink and that's all.
Get ready to sit for a longer period than usual. Sit in a comfortable position.
Look around, observe what is going on around you. Look at the people, decoration, objects and overall feeling around you.
Get a sense of your surroundings and your position in this whole.
If thoughts or feeling comes up, only observe them shortly then label them as a thought or as a feeling and then return to your watching.
If you find yourself lost with a thought it does not matter, let it be. Now that you know you are lost, simply return to y
Continue watching till you feel good.
Look at your table and then your tea. See what your tea consist of. And then again watch…