The newbie path to the life

I am in a prison, going from one door to another, tapping to each door trying to find a way out. It looks if I only open the door in front of me, I will reach to freedom. I can clearly see the freedom behind the door. When I finally open the door a new locked one appears out of nowhere. Thus I am always in the same situation as before, in the middle of the prison and the freedom looks just one door away. So what? Is there any way out of this prison? There is no way out, it is impossible to get out of the prison because it's a mind prison, it is designed in this way.  If I stop struggling to open the doors in front of me and be surrendered to what is, the vicious cycle of creating new doors will break. By surrendering, stop struggling I become aware that even the first locked door is a mind-made one. There is no lock, no door, and no prison. I am already out, free! The prison is the attempt to get free. In the other words trying to get free is the prison i...

Why you say all of them happens in my mind, these thoughts are the thoughts about real things, something that actually has happened, so it is not just a thought. It's happened, yes in the past but it has happened and it was painful. Answer: The mind produces a story about an old event from the past. The recreating is real, it's a real thought. The event itself is over in the past. But when you identify with the thought it seems it's happening again and brings the same bad feeling as it is happening now. A thought is just a thought in your mind, it is not the actual event. What makes you unhappy and brings you pain is not the actual event because the event is over.  What makes you unhappy is experiencing the past event in your mind again and again.  You assume that the thought in your mind is the event. Hamid: Yes its over and now it's a thought in my mind that's right but what about the effects, what has happened in the past has some consequences, you can...

She said: But I want to take my destiny into my own hands, I don't want to be surrendered, I want to change my future. I want to make my own future. Answer: When you are not surrendered to what it is, you are resisting to what it is, you are not in the moment of now, you are either in the future or the past. Memories of past or illusion of future. You start to experience an illusional world in the past or future. Both are just thoughts that occur to you. And as you are not aware of those thoughts. You identify with the thought. You become the thought itself. It seems so real that you start to feel it really happens right now. You start to feel all tensions like you are there in the situation. You are not aware of your surroundings anymore, you start to live an illusional world in your mind. This thought is an entry point of series of unlimited thoughts that they come one after another. They frighten you. They make you worried. Then you like a hypnotised person full of fear...

I was talking with a friend, Misagh, he told me I understand your talks about  the thoughts and how they take over us, makes us worry, ruin our days and play with us, but don't you think these thoughts and stresses makes us to put more effort? To do more? Don't you think stress is necessary to move? Misagh! What is your utmost purpose of all your doings? Is not it reaching to the  happiness and peace? You are looking for the illusion of the  happiness or the illusion of  peace, somewhere in future. You think if you reach to that point then you will feel good and secure, then everything will be fine and you will taste the peace of mind. Then you try more and you push yourself. You put yourself under pressure. You trade the moment of now, the very imidiate peace of now with the illusion of peace in future. You can be peaceful now, you can be happy right now but instead you don't see it. You start to gain more, add something to yourself to reach to a point which ...

When a thought appears in mind in form of worry or fears it seems real. It seems it needs an immediate attention. The thought quickly occupies the mind and then we quickly feel its manifestation in our different areas of our body like our stomach or our chest. But if pay attention,  a few days later the very same thought does not have the same power. Although the situation is the same, the thought has not the same power anymore. for example, if a fear appears in our mind in the evening. if we sleep on it the day after the fear has might gone completely or it is weaker. A thought is powerless on its own. It simply gets power if you pay attention to it. Then it can carry you away from the moment of now! Then you feel upset! When a new thought comes to our mind we take it very seriously.  It tells us that it is an important issue and we must take care of it or something bad will happen.  So it starts to put pressure on us and usually it also brings another thou...

If you don't have the peace in you, the love relationship like all other things in life is just another source of worries and suffering, jealousy, uncertainty, flaws in your partner and much more kinds of suffering.  You are looking your peace in the relationship but it does not give you that. So, you try to change it, improve it, because you think the flaws in your partner or the deficiencies in the relationship is the source of your tension.  You find a flaw and you say to yourself only and only if it was like that, I could be in eternal peace and we could live happily ever after.  Sometimes with marriage, a contract, you want to make it more certain, you think after the marriage then I will have the peace but after marriage still, you see that the peace is not there. You still suffer! Even more! You look for another thing to add to it, a child, a brilliant place to live and etc, you have the illusion that by adding something or...

Now  Or  Never This time when a pain, a worry about future (fear), an irritating memory, or an agitating thought arises in your mind embrace it right away. Welcome it and don't let it go. Don't push it away by making yourself busy with doing something else or by another thought.  It's exactly the time to encounter, it's the moment of truth. You must face it now or it is gonna torture you all your life time. Not exactly this thought but very similar ones. Face it!   How? ➧First, surrender to the fact that there is a thought and it irritates you. Perfect so it is there, the pain, the agitation, you can feel it with your body. Maybe in your chest stomach, head or anywhere in your body. ➧Second, accept that it is the way it must be, it is there exactly as the way it supposed to be. Is it pain full? Yes ? It's okay. Accept it with saying to yourself "oh there is a thought, it annoys me and it is so !" ➧Third, after embracing the ...